Love in the Time of Kodachrome

Love in the Time of Kodachrome

  The break-up is always harder when you realize in later years … just how much you miss the relationship. It all started rather innocently. The bride posed for me in a fantastically rustic soybean field, mottled with the golden-brown texture and shadows of fall. This is the sweet-spot of the day, I thought to myself. [...]

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Men Don’t Cry in the Closet

Men Don’t Cry in the Closet

  My dad was Evil Kinevil … Think about that for a minute. A few weeks ago I received an email from an anonymous reader — a frank and self-deprecating portrayal of a dad consumed by doubt and the burden of his own self-perceived shortcomings. Based on the content, my first instinct was to judge him. But when [...]

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So the Story Goes …

So the Story Goes …

  Somewhere in the attic there’s a picture of me standing in front of a hotel in Topeka, Kansas. I haven’t seen it for years, but like any good photograph, I remember it clearly. Now, I can’t be sure, but I must have been doing something important because I was about 17 years old, dressed [...]

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Of Mice and the Big, Big Crush

Of Mice and the Big, Big Crush

  I had a crush on Kerry McIntosh. By revealing this, I’m probably violating some kind of traditional wedding convention. I mean, they were kind enough to let me eat the wedding cake. And I appreciate that. But some things can only remain a secret for so long … this is one of those things. Guys like [...]

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“Just Another Blonde Girl with a Gun”

“Just Another Blonde Girl with a Gun”

  Move over Miley Cyrus. I never know what to expect from my daughter. After school, she’s as equally likely to bring home a stray hamster as a school book. The other day, she came bounding through the school doors, singing and dancing with one of her little friends. It was cute, as little-people songs [...]

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Serious Business

Serious Business

  Pottying is serious business. Parents who regularly cart around their bathroom-envied toddlers share an important testimony: the trip into a public restroom is not for the unprepared rookie. Full-time toddler-toting veterans alleviate this burden by simply staying packed and prepared for the inevitable “crisis-potty.” This is a good start. But, the true warriors cunningly formulate a [...]

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Deep Inside the Cracker Box

Deep Inside the Cracker Box

A few days ago, a guy selling tree-trimming services interrupted the James family mechanism. This is a bold move if you know anything about father-necessitated family mechanisms. The mechanism, as most dads know, is our process-driven ark of sanity. And we are a process-driven gender … most men anyway. We like to make lists, follow plans, and [...]

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How Did She Get Here?

How Did She Get Here?

  Earlier this summer, I woke up bothered by the nagging feeling that I was about to miss something important. Did I forget to take out the trash? Maybe the kids have dentist appointments? I couldn’t be sure except to say that I felt uncomfortable about walking into another day of predictable processes. Maybe you’ve had [...]

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Love … in 15 Minutes

Love … in 15 Minutes

  Susan is a friend of mine. In the stretched sense of the word, we’ve been friends since high school. But, in truth, we hardly know each other at all. This may seem like an odd way to tell you about such a profound experience, but I’m not sure how else to convey this thought [...]

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